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It's funny that you are writing this. I was just telling a friend of mine the other day that I feel like I am an unwilling actor in a science fiction movie.

When I lived in Texas, I was having a hard time finding friends. I was beginning to get very lonely. You never knew, as nice as people seemed to be, what their politics were. Demographically, where I lived (the peninsula in the middle of Joe Pool Lake) in Grand Prairie, there were a lot of Democrats, but I had a hard time finding them because there can be repercussions if you "outed yourself" as a Democrat, anything from getting a lecture from right wing supporters to getting your tires slashed.

I decided to start a Meetup (before COVID) called "Left-Leaning Women's Club" (ever the antagonist, in a red state, no less.). The first meeting was the day after Trump was elected for the first time. About 25 women from all walks of life had arrived. I had prepared an introduction in advance and during the introductions to each other, requested they also gave a brief statement about what brought them there. I assumed people meeting each other for the first time would be shy, so I brought a lot to say. Not so. When people were introducing themselves, there was a lot of weeping, not only about Trump being elected, but that they could not let on to friends, lovers, and husbands that they were secretly left-leaning. I got through the election results by believing his election was just an anomaly, I just had to survive the next 4 years and then he would be gone! UGH!

They had been devastated and were in the same situation as I was, even though many of them had lived there a long time. Our Meetup was the first time many of them ever let anyone know. Most of them were thanking me for providing a venue in a safe environment, where they could finally talk about it. Lots of them became best friends. Unfortunately, my husband and I were relocating back to California so I had to turn the Meetup over to other people; happy to be returning to California but sad to leave now that I had found some like-minded friends.

I didn't get along with Texas for various reasons, but mostly it was like a foreign country to me having been born and raised in California. The way I survived it was to look at it objectively as a cultural experience in a different country. That almost made it OK (I know you grew up there, or at least born there. I hope I'm not offending you with this. Texans are a proud people).

Anyhow, I am all about supporting you in this undertaking and can't wait to read your next chapter!

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